My dad used to say the following whenever I felt stuck or in the depths of a problem:
If it can be handled with money, it can be handled with money
Incredibly simplistic right? It's right up there with those Captain Obvious commercials for hotels.com. Nevertheless, as I've gotten older and hopefully somewhat wiser, that logic has become ever more powerful. In fact, as someone who has at times struggled with money issues - and I mean in a more psychological than literal sense - this reality has become more and more real. And I hope by my sharing it today, it will perhaps raise your awareness.
How often do we manage to get ourselves bent out of shape over something that can be handled through our finances? I'm guessing some of you may be saying "well, what if we don't have all the money to handle it?" Valid point. While I know this can be true, aren't we talking more about quantity? Doesn't the problem then move to the "how" of getting the quantity of money needed. This tends to align with magnitude - as we grow older, the problems that can be handled with money grow in size - yet, they remain manageable. As a quick example, when we're college students, we might struggle to buy that tiny refrigerator for our dorm room. Once we're old enough to be homeowners, we'll worry about redecorating our kitchen. See, magnitude but still manageable.
But let's talk about what can't be handled with money. True happiness. Joy. Fulfillment. Interesting that the idea of quantity, size, scale or magnitude just isn't relevant here. You can't buy a small or large amount of happiness, joy or fulfillment (although the old joke is that you can rent it!). Conversely, money can't buy away sadness, loss, and pain. While it can buy medications or rent a movie to make us laugh a bit, deep down, money just can't touch these things.
I'd invite you to bring this concept into your life and see what this simple yet true saying can remind you of. For me, it became a part of the special wisdom my father was always able to introduce into my life and I love him deeply for it.
Remember, if it can be handled with money, it can be handled with money.
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Robert Grabel is the President of Nonprofit Now! You can find his posts here and at www.robertgrabel.com